Are our problems big enough for couples therapy?

Couples counseling can benefit any couple. You do not need a crisis to start, and the same argument on a loop, growing distance, or a big decision ahead are all reasons to come in.

Can we come if only one of us is sure about therapy?

Yes. One partner is often more ready than the other, and your therapist can start from where you both are. It helps to be honest about the hesitation.

Can couples therapy help after infidelity?

Couples can work through infidelity in therapy. Counseling gives you a safe setting for the difficult conversations and for rebuilding trust, at a pace you can both manage.

Can individual therapy go alongside couples therapy?

Yes. Some people choose to attend both individual and couples therapy. This can be helpful, however we recommend that you have different therapists for couples and individual therapy.

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Therapy for couples

Work through what keeps coming up between you, with a clinician who sits with couples every week.

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We understand

We get what couples are carrying

Most couples don't come in over one big blowup. It's the same argument on a loop, the silence that sets in after, the sense that you're talking past each other more than to each other. Money, parenting, sex, family, the shift after a new baby or a move or a job change — any of it can pull two people apart, and rebuilding trust after a betrayal is its own kind of slow. You may be married, engaged, or years into a partnership, and still not sure if therapy is for problems this size. It is.

What couples bring to therapy

Couples come in at every stage: premarital, newly married, years into a partnership, planning a family, or deciding whether to stay together. Some are inter-racial, inter-ethnic, or inter-religious couples who want a therapist at ease with those differences, and some arrive with one partner much more ready for therapy than the other.

If your partner is hesitant, our article on how to convince a partner to go to couples therapy is a good place to start.

How we work

Both of you meet with your therapist, who helps you set goals, name the patterns that keep repeating, and work on the issues that weaken the relationship, in a safe and impartial space. The aim is better communication, more understanding and empathy, shared values, and ways to resolve conflict.

We welcome couples of every background and relationship style, including religious couples, LGBTQIA+ couples, and those in non-traditional relationships. Our couples therapy page describes the service in more detail, and our relationship problems page lists the issues we typically address.

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Clinicians who work with Couples

Licensed Therapist

Jessica Boerma, LCSW